A utopia is only useless if it cannot be built. This one has a first step, and the first step belongs to one person.
I call myself a practicing utopian because I do not think this is a faraway dream. I think it is a world we can all start to build — and the reason it stays out of reach is not that people lack the will. It is that the arrangement they are living inside was never designed around them.
So the shift is structural, not motivational. Not better attitudes inside the same system — a different system underneath. School, work, medicine, technology: every one of them meets a person somewhere, and every one of them currently meets the outside of that person.
What is missing is a layer between humans and everything they interact with: the part that knows who this person actually is before it decides what to offer them. Build that layer and the rest becomes possible. Leave it out and we keep optimising a world that is aimed slightly past everybody in it.